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Our Frustrating NICU Experience

Sep 1 Uncategorized

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Part 2 of Sofía’s birth story (click HERE for part 1):

I just stared at my newborn baby in the little incubator hooked up to all kinds of tubes and monitors. She looked so helpless. I wanted to swoop in and just take her away.

The same thoughts kept crossing my mind: Why is my baby in the NICU? She’s not a preemie. Is she going to be alright?

Babies can go to the NICU soon after birth for a myriad of reasons. Even if you don't think your baby will need to go there, you should at least prepare for it.© Nenov Brothers / Dollar Photo Club

I didn’t get many answers. All I knew was what my husband told me. The nurse, who was giving Sofía a bath, noticed that she was having a hard time breathing when she cried. So she ended up in the NICU.

The NICU staff were all very kind, but that didn’t change the fact that my baby was hooked up to a machine that was helping her breath. It was all very troublesome and worried me as a first time mom. I doubt it would’ve been any different if it was my fourth child, though.

My Breastfeeding Challenge

Before Sofía was born, I knew that I wanted to breastfeed her. But, with a tube going down her throat, she really couldn’t latch on to me. I tried numerous times to get her to eat, but with each feeding, she spent less and less time trying to get anything. Granted, I was only producing colostrum, but it was almost like I couldn’t give my baby her most basic needs: food and safety. I felt powerless, and the NICU only made it worse with their “rules.” By the second night there, Sofía was drinking formula. If I wanted my baby to leave sooner, rather than later, she was going to have to gain weight.

This is what I don’t get. All babies lose weight after they are born. They normally gain back all the weight they have lost in about two weeks time. So why was it so important for Sofía, a baby born at a normal weight, to gain weight in order to leave? She was 6 pounds, 8 ounces, which isn’t exactly preemie weight.

Babies can go to the NICU soon after birth for a myriad of reasons. Even if you don't think your baby will need to go there, you should at least prepare for it.

I was mostly bothered by the nurses who, I felt, were pushing me to do things I didn’t want to do as a mother. The first was the formula feeding. I actually fought that one for about three feedings. Finally, by the second night, I was still only producing drops of colostrum (even after pumping), so I had to let them give her formula.

They gave her the formula at the 3 AM feeding that night because I slept through my alarm clock. I felt like the worst mother on the planet at that point. How could I sleep when my baby needed me so much? When I woke up at 6, I ran down to the NICU only to find out that I had to wait to go in. I was supposed to feed her every three hours, but there were times when nobody could go in except the staff because they had to do monitoring and such.

I guess I shouldn’t feel so bad about sleeping through her feeding. I was separated from my child. I was sleeping in my room, she was sleeping in the NICU…on the floor below mine. I was also a new mom. Never before did I need to wake up in the night to do something important like feed a newborn. My husband couldn’t wake me up because he was at home sleeping. There was really nowhere for him to sleep comfortably in my hospital room.

I still tried my darndest to feed my baby the way I wanted to feed her. I continued to pump every three hours to try and produce more colostrum and hopefully get my milk to come in soon. I always gave Sofía what I had pumped before the formula. I even talked with a lactation specialist about breastfeeding: what I should be eating to help my milk supply, different latches to try with my baby, and how much rest I should be getting. I was supposed to take a breastfeeding class at the hospital, but the class was scheduled for the next week. I, of course, scheduled it then thinking that she was going to come right around her due date and no sooner.

Babies can go to the NICU soon after birth for a myriad of reasons. Even if you don't think your baby will need to go there, you should at least prepare for it.

A Nurse Just Doing Her “Job”

One of the nurses was kind of careless with our baby. She didn’t treat Sofía like many of the nurses before her did. I would’ve felt so much better about Sofía being in the NICU if that nurse had at least shown some kind of compassion. She called me the third morning because Sofía was screaming uncontrollably. You wouldn’t believe the set of lungs on that girl. That’s why it’s so crazy for me to think that she was in the NICU because her lungs hadn’t fully developed. So I went down to the NICU only to find she had calmed down significantly. The nurse said to me something snide about her screaming. I just couldn’t believe that someone like that could work in an environment such as this. How could she act like my baby was ruining her day? She was only making me feel even worse as a mother, and I had barely become one!

How to Prepare for a NICU Stay

Even if you don’t think your baby will be in the NICU, I think it’s important to be a little educated about it, just in case. So here are a few resources you can browse through if you are expecting a child soon. I wish I had read through some things beforehand or at least while I was at the hospital, because nobody was really telling me anything while I was there.

  • Common NICU Equipment from March of Dimes
  • Feeding Your Baby in the NICU from March of Dimes
  • Booby Traps in the NICU from Best for Babes (link no longer available)
  • Breastfeeding Your Baby in the NICU from March of Dimes
  • Common Conditions Treated in the NICU from March of Dimes
  • Staff in the NICU from March of Dimes
  • Paying for NICU Care from March of Dimes

Read on for Part 3 HERE.

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Charlee Flaminio
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I'm a mom of 3 on a journey to feed my family nourishing foods. Personally, I believe you can cook healthy food and still have time for your loved ones.
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By Charlee Flaminio on Sep 1

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  1. Kristina says

    09.01.14 at 9:40 am

    Great post! I look forward to the third installment. Two of my three kids were in the NICU and not due to being preemies. When I was pregnant with number 3, the one thing I was adamnant about was I didn’t want a NICU baby. Yet my almost 9 pound baby spent time in the NICU due to blood sugar issues from my gestational diabetes. It’s definitely a scary, frustrating, emotional time. If you ever want another post on it, I’d love to share my story.

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    • Charlee says

      09.01.14 at 1:49 pm

      That is very frustrating! I was so glad when my second baby was born closer to her due date, but I guess it doesn’t matter when they are born. Sometimes there are complications that they just need to watch closely. I think it would be a lot of fun to feature your story, so I’ll contact you about it soon 🙂

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  2. Brandi says

    09.01.14 at 7:05 pm

    My sweet girl wasn’t in the NICU (our hospital doesn’t have one!) But was in the hospital, in an isolette, with a feeding tube, and cpap for 12 days. It was awful. She was early, and her lungs were even more underdeveloped than her gestational age. It was the single worst time of my life. I cried and cried, feeling like it wasn’t fair, why MY baby had a problem? Why other moms were sending their babies to the nursery, and I couldn’t even touch my baby? I feel for anyone who has any experience like this, no matter what the reason. It is a completely different experience to have a baby that is healthy.

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    • Charlee says

      09.02.14 at 11:19 pm

      Your babe was in there for longer than Sofía 🙁 It’s so hard to feel joy about a new baby (especially a first) when you can’t even hold it. It was definitely like night and day to have a healthy baby the second time around. So glad you shared your thoughts, Brandi. 🙂

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  3. Ana Lynn says

    09.02.14 at 7:28 am

    I haven’t had such experience but I do remember this very unpleasant nurse when my first was born. For whatever reason she was rude every time she came to the room and we had a few unpleasant incidents.

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    • Charlee says

      09.02.14 at 11:22 pm

      Isn’t it awful when one person seems to ruin your beautiful moment? I always wonder if some nurses get that way when they are overly tired.

      Reply
  4. Carolina Brenes says

    09.02.14 at 6:34 pm

    This makes me really sad. It’s already so hard to be away from your newborn and I don’t get why some nurses make it even harder. It also makes me mad how they push formula. All the baby needs are a few drops of colostrum to begin with.
    I can’t wait to read part 3. I hope things get better.

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    • Charlee says

      09.02.14 at 11:24 pm

      I kept thinking that. Why can’t I just give her my colostrum? It’s all she needs. They do get better, Carolina. 🙂

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  5. Rebecca says

    09.02.14 at 10:45 pm

    This entire situation must have been so troubling and upsetting. I can’t imagine how sleep deprived and worried you must have been. I’m in suspense for part III!

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    • Charlee says

      09.02.14 at 11:29 pm

      I bawled the other night just thinking about it! It was definitely a time full of mixed emotions.

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  6. Lauren Tamm says

    09.04.14 at 5:16 am

    Oh my Charlee! Isn’t motherhood such a whirlwind? It’s so hard to know exactly how to advocate for yourself and what is okay and what isn’t with regards to breastfeeding. I’m right there with you, I would have had the hardest time in the world if they would’ve given formula. Not because I think formula is bad, but because I so desperately wanted to breastfeed. Thank you for sharing such an honest story. Looking forward to part 3!

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    • Charlee says

      09.04.14 at 2:57 pm

      It’s even harder to go through something like this when you are set on doing it one way and one way only. Click here for part 3! I appreciate your feedback, Lauren!

      Reply
  7. Jennifer | The Deliberate Mom says

    09.07.14 at 1:05 pm

    Awww, I can’t even imagine how emotional that time was for you. I wish you hadn’t encountered that nurse… that’s just shameful.

    I love that you included resources for families to prepare for a possibility of NICU – good idea.

    Thanks for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

    Wishing you a lovely day.
    xoxo

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    • Charlee says

      09.08.14 at 7:15 am

      Those resources would have been so helpful while I was there!

      Reply

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